Saying NO is easy in “cultivated” relationships — 5th in series

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The final two “chapters” in my Saying NO series will be based on input from LinkedIn members who helpfully contributed responses to my question:

How do you say NO to a client or customer?

I’m writing a blog post on Saying NO to Customers/Clients.
Do you have any tips or experiences on WHEN to say “No” and HOW to say “No”?

The question closed with 49 ANSWERS! Several of them will be included in my final chapter, but this post features one of the early responses I liked a lot — and hope you will as well.

Saying “No” is easy

Saying “No” in an effective and constructive manner is a function of a cultivated client relationship

Guest Post by Kenneth Larson: SCORE Volunteer Counselor and Founder, “Small to Feds”

Below are two examples of frameworks for “cultivated client” relationships.

Saying “No” is addressed in Step 3 of EXAMPLE A.

It is addressed again at Step 6 of EXAMPLE B.


1. Do not promise what you cannot deliver

2. Do not overextend your resources and get a reputation for poor performance.

3. Do not tell the customer what he or she wants to hear. Tell them what they need to know. They will respect you for it.

4. Network constantly on professional sites such as Linked In. Hit the “Answers” feature and accumulate an “Expert” rating from your peers in your field.

5. Blog like there is no tomorrow. A blog is quite different than a web site. Provide good, solid information free of charge and use blog searches for synergistic businesses to team with. Teaming is an absolute necessity these days.

6. Be prepared to provide information, samples and valuable service gratis as a marketing tool. Introduce yourself and then immediately engage the client with your presentation tools available to bring your expertise to whatever topic they are interested in. Let them take you where they want to go with their concerns and their needs. Apply your presentation tools and expertise dynamically on the fly in a sincere manner to those concerns and needs and you will be in demand for follow up business.

7. Quote and bill what the client can afford and grow with him (in content and resources).

8. Be dedicated to working yourself out of a job with a specific customer and having your client take over by training him. He will remember you and recommend you to 10 others.

9. Remember growth is a function of persistence and foresight. Know where your market is headed and get their first – then write and speak about your success indirectly by helping others. Demonstrate humility and a satisfaction in helping others succeed. They will find ways to give you credit. There are ways of tooting your horn without making peoples’ lights go out.

10. Word of mouth advertising from pleased clients is a sure ticket to success.


1. KNOW – The contract value and its ceiling amount

2. KNOW – The incurred cost to date and commitments

3. KNOW – The scope of work and whether or not your current efforts are supporting it or some other objectives

4. KNOW – The estimated cost at completion based on where you are at today

5. KNOW – Your customer and who among the customer population is prone to direct out of scope effort.

6. KNOW – WHEN TO SAY “NO” to “Scope Creep” and say it officially in writing to the contracting officer specified in your contract.

Ken’s Link:

Previous Series Posts:

Post #1: Saying NO to a prospective client may be the Best Business Move

Post #2: Avoid future problems by saying NO Now

Post #3: Investigate client/project before saying Yes — or making it a NO.

Post #4: Three main reasons to say NO to new client

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Posted by Shari Weiss   @   2 December 2010
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Dec 11, 2010
11:31 am

No is sometimes a closing work. Saying no is authentic and truthful. When you have a cultivated relationship, no can actually be beneficial to the sale.

Your ‘Saying No’ series will really help a lot of people. Can’t wait til it’s ready!

Author Dec 11, 2010
11:53 am

Debbie, the series is finished; you can see ALL of the posts PLUS the ten lessons I learned from doing a series here:

Dec 22, 2011
5:34 pm

First dates can be nerve-wracking and it is very easy to say or do the wrong thing. Some singles are more comfortable than others when it comes to going out on dates. For those that are inexperienced or just too shy, there are several online resources that can help singles navigate through various dates. The onset of the Internet has made it so easy to obtain information on any subject matter. This is a great place for singles to search for ways to improve the quality of their dates.

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